I chose to study psychology because I am convinced that behind every reaction and emotion there is a “good reason” to find. We all have a personal and family history, we are all shaped by our experiences, and I found it fascinating to discover the immersed part of the iceberg, bringing a new understanding of our daily life.
From the beginning of my journey as a psychologist, I am specially interested in couple relationships, and have written my thesis on depression and interactional styles between partners.
I believe that a couple relationship is a place full of potential, connexion, love, and intimacy, but closeness also means potentially being hurt by the partner. When the connexion is lost, that conflict or indifference takes up too much space, then a third person can help find another way of communication and walk along with the couple to find back this loving space.
I had the privilege to meet very different people on humanitarian trips, from refugees in Greece to poor elderly in the Bangkok slums. Every encounter hit me with the same realization: beyond our life paths, where we are from and where we are at now, we all are human and we all have the same emotional range and the same need and ability to connect.
These different principles led me throughout my professional journey, as a child care educator, or with parents asking for help at the child protection service for instance, and I keep applying them daily as a psychologist.
Our relational experiences shape the way we see others and ourselves, and we build inner filters, that may be unconscious, that play a role in our interactions.
Thus, we all feel either safe and trusting, or threatened and insecure in our relationships with others and ourselves.
The goal of therapy is to explore your current situation and emotions, such as depression or anxiety, through the lense of these filters, and then create corrective experiences.
They will allow you to feel more safety and confidence towards others and yourself.
Often, pain in a couple relationship comes from the feeling of each partner that they somehow lack love, acknowledging, or validation, despite what the partner does or doesn’t do.
This lack is expressed by anger, frustration, or a withdrawal of the relationship, and the couple is stuck in a repeating “dance” that brings suffering.
The goal of therapy is to understand this dance, the underlying emotions and the deep longing needs of each partner, and then create safety to express them differently.
New experiences allow us to learn and restore the deep connection that was lost.
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