Relational experiences we have since childhood shape how we see the world (the others and us), and we build sometimes unconscious filters that play a role in our interactions. Thus we all feel relatively safe and trusting, or at the contrary threatened or insecure in our relationships or with ourselves. We are like a plant, growing well in a nurturing soil, but that has a harder time or uses a lot of energy when it doesn’t receive what it needs.
The purpose of therapy is to offer you a listening and welcoming space to allow you to safely explore your current situation and emotions. The path we’ll walk together will help you understand them, find their logic and their message, and create corrective experiences. These will allow you to feel more safety and trust towards others and yourself. In other words, to give this plant good conditions to grow.
Since the beginning of my Psychologist journey, I have had a particular interest in couple relationships. I believe that a couple is a place full of potential, connection, love, intimacy, and acknowledgement, but when we talk about “closeness potential” we also talk about “pain and hurt potential”. When this connection has been lost, that arguments or indifference are becoming too present, it is there that a third party can help find a new way of communicating, and walk with the couple to find back this place of caring.
Often, pain in a couple relationship comes from the fact that each partner feel a lack of love, validation or something else, independently from the efforts the other partner does or doesn’t do. This lack expresses itself with anger, frustration, or withdrawal in the relationship. The couple is then caught in a “dance” that repeats itself, brings pain, and from which the couple can’t get out.
The purpose of therapy is to understand your unique dance, underlying emotions and deep emotional needs of each partner, then create a safe place to express them differently. New experiences will help learn to progressively restore the lost connection.
I am a member of the following associations:
- Fédération Suisse des Psychologues (FSP)
- Société Suisse pour l'Approche Centrée sur la Personne
- Centre Suisse Romand pour l'EFT
- The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy